Tuesday, July 30, 2013

What I want people to know

I'm not afraid of listening. I'm not afraid to hear your story.

I'm not afraid to answer back.
I'm not afraid to try to help, if that's what you need from me.

I'm not going to abandon you after you've gotten up the courage to tell of the abuse you've suffered. I'm not going to think that your difficulties are somehow "catching".
I'm not going to give you a trite answer.

Maybe I have "fear" somehow deeply rooted in my psyche - I suffer from panic attacks and anxiety. But I'm not afraid of you. I'm not afraid of your story.

I'm not going to stop believing that you're beautiful.

I'm not going to stop wishing for more "safe people".

I'm not going to let my past experiences stop me from trusting others.

And here is what I wish there was more of - acknowledgement. Love. Understanding.
"I'm so sorry you had to go through that/are going through this."
"That sounds really difficult."
"Tell me more."
"I don't understand what you're going through - but I want to help in any way I can."
"You are strong."
"You are not alone."

Sometimes just be being alive we are brave.
I acknowledge this. I acknowledge you.

1 comment:

  1. Please hang in there, Fay. You are fine. Lots of young people go through similar struggles and it makes them better people in the end.

    I wish you all the best.